Couples' Support
Nearly all relationships go through periods of struggle - many people keep this private - having been taught not to "air their dirty laundry in public".
And yet during times of disconnection - if a couple seeks support - resentment and disconnection can be dissolved and a more intimate connection re-established.
Many relationships end when they don't need to - through lack of understanding of how to work through their challenges rather than any inherent lack of compatibility.
And of course, it a couple's differences are too great, ending the relationship with peaceful resolution rather than acrimony is so much more satisfying.
If you are:
FAQs
Please see my Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) page for more information, including price.
Contact me to book a free call
Please contact me by email or phone to book a free half hour Orientation call (could be phone or Skype) to discuss whether I can be of support to you and if so what that support might look like.
And yet during times of disconnection - if a couple seeks support - resentment and disconnection can be dissolved and a more intimate connection re-established.
Many relationships end when they don't need to - through lack of understanding of how to work through their challenges rather than any inherent lack of compatibility.
And of course, it a couple's differences are too great, ending the relationship with peaceful resolution rather than acrimony is so much more satisfying.
If you are:
- longing for a more satisfying relationship with your partner and want support discovering how
- wanting to work through and dissolve built-up resentment between you and need support to get to the bottom of the resentment
- wanting to explore whether to separate or keep working with the challenges
- wanting support to talk through intimacy issues
- wanting to open a conversation that you imagine would be hard to hear and need support for the two of you to really listen to each other
FAQs
Please see my Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) page for more information, including price.
Contact me to book a free call
Please contact me by email or phone to book a free half hour Orientation call (could be phone or Skype) to discuss whether I can be of support to you and if so what that support might look like.
Llinos and Thomas's story
Background
Llinos and her husband Thomas have two young children (7 and 4) and had been struggling in their marriage for some time. Thomas had had some depression over a couple of years, which had affected both of them. But he had sought help and felt he was coming out of it now. Llinos had been close to wanting a divorce and the two of them had historic pain, hurt and resentment in the way of their connection.
We decided that a week’s holiday away from the children would be the best way to focus on their relationship. Over the course of the week, they each had a session alone and three together with me - with spaces in between to reflect, hopefully have some fun and relaxation time and test the waters of the progress they were making in the sessions.
Here is what Llinos has to say about the sessions
"Penny gave us a calm and caring environment to open up to each other... discussing topics which can be very challenging to broach alone. She used her skills to help us focus on key issues and help us empathise with each other. When needed I was able to get empathy support from Penny without my partner being present... helping me find the clarity, understanding and confidence I needed to speak to my partner about it afterwards. We learned a lot about each other during and between our sessions."
How it has been since the sessions
"Now we are back home I acknowledge that we have so little time for each other and when we do have time we are both too exhausted to have the depth of discussions we did during the week away. Changing that is what would really make a difference. However the things we did talk through with Penny’s support have helped a lot. And reconnecting there has given us a really good grounding from which we are starting to make changes.
I am no longer wanting a divorce, and I have much more hope that we can work through these difficult times."
Some concrete changes we have made since being home
"I notice there is less resentment between us; we have more understanding about our different needs; we have booked a babysitter to go out and have some fun together one night a week; we are looking for ways to spend more quality time together enabling deeper conversation as well as fun. I'm seeing some light, and feeling more affection towards Thomas than before.”
Background
Llinos and her husband Thomas have two young children (7 and 4) and had been struggling in their marriage for some time. Thomas had had some depression over a couple of years, which had affected both of them. But he had sought help and felt he was coming out of it now. Llinos had been close to wanting a divorce and the two of them had historic pain, hurt and resentment in the way of their connection.
We decided that a week’s holiday away from the children would be the best way to focus on their relationship. Over the course of the week, they each had a session alone and three together with me - with spaces in between to reflect, hopefully have some fun and relaxation time and test the waters of the progress they were making in the sessions.
Here is what Llinos has to say about the sessions
"Penny gave us a calm and caring environment to open up to each other... discussing topics which can be very challenging to broach alone. She used her skills to help us focus on key issues and help us empathise with each other. When needed I was able to get empathy support from Penny without my partner being present... helping me find the clarity, understanding and confidence I needed to speak to my partner about it afterwards. We learned a lot about each other during and between our sessions."
How it has been since the sessions
"Now we are back home I acknowledge that we have so little time for each other and when we do have time we are both too exhausted to have the depth of discussions we did during the week away. Changing that is what would really make a difference. However the things we did talk through with Penny’s support have helped a lot. And reconnecting there has given us a really good grounding from which we are starting to make changes.
I am no longer wanting a divorce, and I have much more hope that we can work through these difficult times."
Some concrete changes we have made since being home
"I notice there is less resentment between us; we have more understanding about our different needs; we have booked a babysitter to go out and have some fun together one night a week; we are looking for ways to spend more quality time together enabling deeper conversation as well as fun. I'm seeing some light, and feeling more affection towards Thomas than before.”
