Tel: 01559 362510
Support writing difficult emails or letters using NVC consciousness
in person or by Skype or phone
Letter* writing has its pros and cons!
When we want to say something important, often the best thing to do is to pay a visit to the person or pick up a phone as it can be easy for people to read into what we have written, things we didn't mean due to there being no non-verbal cues to back up the words. Yet there are times when, for various reasons, we can't visit/phone or we wish to maintain a level of protection from the immediate response or we need space and time to think both in sending the information and in receiving the answer.
*wherever I use the term 'letter' this is interchangeable with any form of written communication such as emailing and, to a lesser extent, texting.
Letter-writing skills can be learnt
Many people, even people with developed 'people skills', still find it hard to articulate what they want to say in an email or letter in a way that shares what they are feeling and what is really important to them without any sense of judgement, blame or 'put down' creeping in. Even if they manage this, they are often disappointed with the reply as they haven't been clear in asking for what they want to receive back.
This is a skill we can learn and develop and get better at with practice. Yet there are some key skills that can help the learning process be less of a trial and error process and more consciously developed.
Saving heart-ache and time
Although we can never predict how another person is going to react to our words, writing with care can save a lot of heart-ache and time.
Most commonly, these types of letters are written to girl/boy friends, lovers, ex-partners (especially when negotiating access to children), friends and family but might include writing to colleagues, bosses, other community members...
You can try this service out for free!
If you are trying to write a letter but keep finding judgement, blame, put downs etc creeping in
or don't know how to ask for what you are wanting please contact me for to see if I can be of help.
As well as helping you write your letter, I will give your guidelines so that you can develop the skills yourself.
The first call (up to half an hour) is free.
Please phone +44 (0)1559 362510 or click here to email me and arrange a mutually agreeable time.
My financial request for subsequent support will depend on the level of support needed and can include:
Supporting you to:
- 'Tweak' a letter that is already written
- Re-write a letter
- Write a letter from scratch
or it may include an full empathy session first to help you get in touch with what it is you are really wanting.